Tracy was near the end of her rope. At work everything was going really great—her business was thriving and now there was interest from an investor in buying it. But at home, she was feeling nothing but pressure. This was the last thing she needed right now.
For some reason recently he had been acting stranger and stranger—not at all like himself. For the life of her she couldn’t understand where his behavior was coming from.
By the time she got home from work, he was already sulky and moody. It seemed like an effort for him to even say hello to her, never mind hug her and connect. He seemed to want to spend more time alone in his home office. Before, he would seek her out and share everything that had happened that day. Now they were like two ships passing in the night.
Deep down, she knew that the way she was handling her relationship with David really wasn’t working. She would hear herself say, “He’s not there for me, so why should I be there for him?” Clearly this wasn’t the most effective strategy as each of them were in their own corner pondering what was wrong with the other one!
Tracy knew she was being borderline adolescent, yet she found herself digging her heels in even deeper. And he was doing exactly the same. So both were going nowhere fast!
Relationship problems: Can’t we just get along?
Tracy found it altogether too unpleasant at home, and she was starting to dread going there. She knew this had to change.
Finally, one day, she had had enough of all their relationship problems.
Tracy knew that she was so caught up in her upset with David that she wouldn’t be able to figure it out by herself. So she turned to her best friend for some perspective.
The HUGE ‘Aha’ Tracy got from her conversation with her friend was that she needed to BE what she wanted in David!
So that very same night Tracy prepared David’s favorite meal and set a beautiful table, which she hadn’t done for quite a while. She even picked out his very favorite wine to set the mood.
To say the least, David was totally surprised. And even though he tried to cover it up, he was also really delighted at all the effort that Tracy had clearly made for this special meal.
Over dinner and sipping the wine, they started to talk and uncover where their issues had first started. They soon understood that each little upset had led to the next antagonism to the next disconnect to the next upset over and over again!
So, how did Tracy and David resolve their issues?
- Both were willing to take an honest look at what was causing things to go awry.
- Both took ownership of their part in it.
- Both were ready to give up being right.
- Both immediately forgave the other.
- Both took action to create a different result.
They both got to see that their relationship problems had come from nothing major, just little things—like snowballs rolling down the hill, gathering momentum, and turning into an avalanche.
They saw that they had been wasting so much precious time being upset with each other in an effort to hold onto being right!
Both Tracy and David resolved that it would be different from now forward, and they would put their relationship problems behind them.
It was David’s turn next to surprise Tracy, and he was eagerly looking forward to completely delighting her!
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