Once you and your partner are no longer married, it may be time to consider dating and networking again.
Here are some divorce tips for healthy boundaries as it relates to your children.
- Socialize away from home.
- Don’t introduce new friends to your children too early.
- Don’t leave your child home alone more than once a week for networking.
- Don’t talk to new prospective dates on the phone in front of your children.
- Do tell your children you are going out to meet friends.
Socialize away from home.
As you begin to date, don’t expose your children to the new dating prospect in your home right away. Your home is a sacred space. Give it time.
Don’t introduce new friends to your children right away.
You are just beginning to date for the first time since you were married. You may meet many new friends before Mr or Mrs Right appears. Save your kids from early exposure to people that may not be a good fit.
Don’t let your child be home alone more than once a week for networking.
Dating is a new behavior and divorce means a new start for a family. Don’t let your kids feel a loss of You. Help them understand that your friends are important to you and you do need some time with them.
Don’t talk to new prospective dates on the phone in front of your children.
Keep your conversations private. Your children may be very sensitive and have a heightened awareness to your conversations. They may wonder who you are talking to. Avoid this to keep the anxiety down.
Be open and do tell your children when you are going out to meet friends.
Having friends is important. Let your children know you are meeting new friends and you may be a little nervous about it. Your openness will teach them to be open with you.
The key is to allow yourself to network and date once your marriage is final and always be sensitive to your children’s feelings and needs as you do.
Dr. SueAnne Magyar-Hill
Founder of Empowering Children Of Divorce
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