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February 29, 2012

| by Andrea Woolf ("The Queen of Having It All!")

Are Relationship Problems Inevitable?

Are Relationship Problems inevitable?

The simple answer is absolutely not! In fact, they can be averted altogether. All it takes are the right tools.  

But without them, it feels like there’s absolutely no way to get clear about what’s really going on, and to understand what’s really at the heart of your partner’s and your upset. And so you both find yourselves merely reacting to each other – at times like exposed electric wires!

It’s amazing how one seemingly insignificant issue can adversely every aspect of your relationship, from communication to sex and everything in between.

Have you noticed how sometimes the smallest snowballs can turn into a sudden avalanche and cause real relationship problems if not tended to as they’re building up?!

Below is the astute take from Gordon Huntley, a psychotherapist from the UK, on what causes relationship problems.  

“This is Part 1 of a two part exploration of relationship problems. Part 1 briefly looks at possible causes for relationship issues and Part 2 then looks at what actions can be taken to resolve these issues.

As we all know relationships go through various phases and indeed change over time.

In a sustained relationship there are many highs and lows and indeed fairly mundane plateau’s. Many changes happen in life and these can impact on our relationship and even strong relationships can have rocky patches.

Relationship problems can be triggered by a multitude of issues. Major events such as job loss or illness can cause significant personal as well as relationship stress which can then severely test the partnership to breaking point.

There are many factors that can cause tension in a relationship such as work, money, sex, children and these can slowly impact on the health of the relationship leading to issues. One thing that often happens at this point is the breakdown of communication. Unfortunately when life is busy it is only too easy to not realize or ignore how these pressures are impacting on our relationship. More serious issues can then occur such as infidelity.
The fact of the matter is if you believe your relationship is in trouble then in all probability it is! What you must keep in mind is that issues can be resolved.

Remember to look out for Part 2 when we will look at what actions can be taken.”

Article source: http://counsellingchester.net/relationship-problems/

Are Relationship Problems Inevitable?

The key steps to take with your partner before things get out of hand are:

Explore together what triggered the issues in the first place.
Listen to each other with ‘open ears’ – in other words, resist the temptation to be right or need to have the last word.
Look at the role that you played in the unfolding drama, then gently invite your partner to do the same.
Take on seeing the situation from the other’s perspective. It’s amazing how quickly your relationship will shift when each of you have empathy for the other’s point of view.

By simply taking these steps, you’ll cause the focus to move away from being upset and needing to be right, to mutual understanding and connection.

Have you noticed that, when your relationship isn’t going so well, everything seems gray and blah? But when it’s going great, you have a spring in your step and all seems right with the world?

So you owe it to yourself to give your partner and your relationship your all!

If you’re ready to shed those relationship problems and create the ideal life and relationship that you’ve been dreaming about, click HERE or the Buy The Book NOW! link on this site to get your PDF of Ignite Your Life! How To Get From Where You Are To Where You Want To Be.

Ignite Your Life! is a simple step-by-step system that will create a profound shift in your life and will bring about the success, abundance and joy that you’ve always dreamed of! When you apply this system to each area of your life, you’ll create the Juicy Life and Business of Your Dreams!

To your magnificence!

Andrea Woolf

‘The Queen of Having It All‘
Author of Ignite Your Life! How To Get From Where You Are To Where You Want To Be
Founder of IgniteYourLifeBOOK.com
Co-founder of WakeUpAbundant.com
Ambassador of Manifest Money, HowtoLiveonPurpose.com

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August 31, 2011

| by Andrea Woolf ("The Queen of Having It All!")

How Do Unrealistic Expectations Cause Relationship Problems?

How Do Unrealistic Expectations Cause Relationship Problems?

Many relationship problems are caused when you project onto another person what you want in or from them. And most of the time, this is unspoken – in other words, it’s all in your mind!

How many people do you know who are in relationships either hoping the other will change or just seeing them the way they want them to be and not necessarily how they are?

Have you ever experienced feeling hurt about something your partner did or didn’t do, and then kept it to yourself? You held it inside and they didn’t have a clue what was going on with you.

How this plays out is you hold onto these hurt feelings and down the line they cause problems in your relationship. It started way back when but, instead of handling it then, you held it inside you and didn’t communicate. Then like a snowball, you keep rolling it down the hill so it gets bigger and bigger, collecting more mass and energy, until one day you just explode.

Does this sound familiar?

Alternatively, have you ever lived through the scenario where you had no clue what was going on with the other person and they were withholding all kinds of feelings? This scenario happens all too often and it’s another huge cause of relationship problems. One person is hoping the other gets what’s not okay, but doesn’t actually communicate it.

Relying on psychic ability is far from an effective strategy to create and sustain great relationships!

Another key source of relationship problems is assuming something about another. It’s an interesting experience when another assumes something about you. Nine times out of ten they are completely off-base, right?

This works in reverse too! When you assume stuff about another, nine times out of ten it’s not going to be accurate either. For example, when we women assume that our significant other knows what we want or expect and they don’t, it can become a HUGE issue.

In fact, this is one of the biggest sources of relationship problems on the entire planet!

Assuming is a way of not seeing your partner for who they really are. Needless to say, this is a recipe for disaster.

Undefined and unrealistic expectations are usually irritating things that you want to change in the other person. And since these unrealistic expectations are usually the best kept secrets, there’s absolutely no way that they can ever be met, short of the other person picking up on what they are and knowing exactly how you want them different.

How do unrealistic expectations cause relationship problems?

Unrealistic expectations can come from a variety of sources. The two most common ones are family background and values. Very often unrealistic expectations come from having grown up in completely different environments and from having totally different family values. This all now shows up as core differences.

Instead of talking things out and building consensus between the two of you, what typically happens is these differences become a source of unmet expectations and frustration.

Another typical source of unrealistic expectations comes from past relationships. This happens when you haul the past into the present and play the comparing game. Needless to say, this usually doesn’t work and is really quite unfair. In essence, you’re not actually seeing the person in front of you for who they are. What you’re seeing is a construct in your head of who they ‘should’ be based on a past picture and experience – a reality that no longer exists. This is a no-win situation for the real person in the present.

Have you ever been compared to a person from your significant other’s past? How did that go? You probably didn’t take it as a compliment, right?

Another classic source of unrealistic expectations comes from making the other person in your relationship responsible for your happiness and fulfillment.

So many are searching for that magical partner who will ‘complete’ you. This is an interesting quest because the package called ‘you’ is already whole and complete just the way you are and just the way you aren’t. When you look outside yourself for your partner to make you happy and fulfill you, your expectations are destined to fall flat.

Now, if you were to reel this back in and look for someone who, together with you, aims to create happiness in your relationship, you’ll find this is much more achievable and fulfilling. So take a good look at your expectations.

Take a look in your life and see if there are any unrealistic expectations lurking there. Uncover them and then shift them into co-creations of happiness so they evaporate and no longer influence your relationship in the present.

Now for the BIG question: Are you ready to let go of past relationship problems, give up expectations, and take action to cause and create what it is you actually want in your life? If you are, then Ignite Your Life! How To Get From Where You Are to Where You Want To Be will help you get there quickly! The simple step-by-step processes will help you get clear and powerfully in action, so that before you know it you will be living the life of your dreams! Click HERE or go to the Buy The Book Now! link to get your copy today.

To your magnificence!

Andrea Woolf of IgniteYourLifeBOOK.com
The Queen of Having It All
Founder of IgniteYourLifeBOOK.com
Co-founder of WakeUpAbundant.com
Ambassador of Manifest Money, HowtoLiveonPurpose.com

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August 4, 2011

| by Andrea Woolf ("The Queen of Having It All!")

How Are Relationship Problems Actually Blessings in Disguise?

How are relationship problems actually blessings in disguise?

Diane was an emotional wreck. Things were strained with her husband, Jeff. He was impatient and critical almost all the time. At his best, Jeff was aloof and barely communicated, and at his worst he was short tempered and borderline aggressive. To say the least, things were not going well.

Diane could not figure out where their relationship had gone wrong. She looked inward to see if perhaps it was something that she had caused, but could not find an event or a moment that she could connect with being the cause of all this.

The less Diane felt loved by Jeff, the more she turned to food to numb all the emotions that she felt, and the worse her food choices were getting. It was no wonder that over the last six months she had put on quite a bit of weight.

So Diane was now beating herself up. The worse she felt about herself, the more hopeless she was. She was in a downward spiral that she could not get out of. She now found herself eating no matter how she felt, whether she felt good or bad about Jeff, herself, or any and all of it. She was miserable, which added even more tension to their relationship problems.

They had just gone through a week of virtually no communication. They knew this could not continue for much longer. Without realizing it, one evening she was like a prickly hedgehog, griping at every little thing. Jeff got more and more frustrated until he suddenly erupted and coughed up what was bothering him. He was no longer attracted to her with all the extra weight that she was carrying around.

Jeff had hesitated to say anything about Diane’s weight before because he had no idea how to say it without causing either a world war or a complete rupture in their marriage. This frustration, combined with his upset about her weight and his anger at how things were going in their relationship had him be much more aggressive than he had planned to be. So of course, his communication did not go well.

Diane’s feelings were deeply hurt, and she let him know that she needed some time away from him to think through this and figure out what she wanted to do.

She processed all her feelings about what Jeff said. She could not believe he could be so shallow that he was only focusing on her physical body and not love her for the totality of who she was.

As she continued to process it all, she started to take a good look at what he had communicated to her, however clumsily.

Diane sensed with every fiber of her being that they were at an important crossroads in their relationship. She knew that if she didn’t pay attention here and do something about it, she would run the risk of actually losing her husband, who, despite everything, she still loved with all her heart.

So the next day, Diane asked Jeff if he was willing to talk things through with her, and he readily agreed. She suggested that they create a plan together to help her lose weight.

Diane was surprised when Jeff heaved a huge sigh of relief. But at the same time, he wondered why she wanted his help. As is common in the difference between the sexes, Diane’s preference was to do something about getting back in shape with her husband, and his idea was that she take care of it herself.

Whilst he had not thought that Diane’s getting in shape would involve him, he quickly got the picture that she clearly wanted his support. Thankfully he was a smart man, and he agreed.

It made all the difference in the world to her. Diane and Jeff created their meal plan and exercise routine together, and then stayed on track with each other’s support.

Diane started to feel better than she had in years. They were both taking better care of themselves and the weight was falling off them as they kept to their new routine. Everything was going much better between them. They suddenly had all this energy and were having fun together again. They were getting back to being close and snuggly, just like they used to be.

How are relationship problems actually blessings in disguise?

They open your eyes to issues that need to be dealt with.
They give you and your partner the opportunity to hear each other and support each other.
They give you and your partner the opportunity to step up to solve them together.
They give you and your partner the opportunity to learn and grow together.
They give you and your partner the opportunity to love your partner in ways that they need to be loved.

As is true so often in life, what can come out of your biggest challenges in relationship problems and otherwise are huge blessings. They are blessings in disguise while they are still lurking as problems. The moment that you understand the opportunity that they are creating in your life, that is when you will truly get what blessings they are!

If you are having relationship problems, start by engaging your partner so that he or she is willing to be by your side as you tackle them together. As you do this, you will discover how they are blessings in your life. To help you both get even more connected with what’s most important and who you truly are, click HERE or go to http://igniteyourlifebook.com/21daychallenge to take the 21-Day “I AM a Gift to the World” Challenge. You will absolutely LOVE it, and it is FREE! Sign up today!

To your magnificence!

Andrea Woolf of IgniteYourLifeBOOK.com
The Queen of Having It All
Founder of IgniteYourLifeBOOK.com
Co-founder of WakeUpAbundant.com
Ambassador of Manifest Money, HowtoLiveonPurpose.com

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July 20, 2011

| by Andrea Woolf ("The Queen of Having It All!")

Do You Have Relationship Problems in Your Business?

Do you have relationship problems in your business?

Do you love your business but dread dealing with your team members? Do you sometimes yearn for the old days when it was just you? Are you finding that your days are consumed with dealing with petty squabbles and personality issues between your team members?

These are some of the most common problems in business today, especially for you, the business owner. Aren’t they the most consuming and annoying aspects that you deal with in your business?

Well, it doesn’t have to be this way.

What has probably happened somewhere along the way, is that you got really busy managing the day to day aspects of your business, taking care of operations, and bringing in new business, and you didn’t pay attention to the people side of your business.

Seeing a void in leadership, certain people within your team most likely stepped in and started influencing the rest of the team. Just like children, when they smell dissension amongst the leadership (in families it’s between Mom and Dad), they’ll act out.

Teams in business are no different. If certain people sense the space to misbehave, they will do so, and that’s where things will take a negative turn.

Does this sound familiar?

If you’re finding yourself at the end of your rope with all of the “people stuff” in your business, have faith because it is possible to turn these relationship problems around!

Start by putting a stake in the ground and deciding how you want it to go amongst the human beings who make up your team.

Do you want a peaceful and harmonious working environment?

Or do you want it be humming and busy and noisy and exciting? If you have a sales team, for example, this is what you want. You want the phones ringing and people celebrating when they close the sale. You want TONS of energy!

If you’re running a CPA firm, you might want it friendly and energetic, but calmer. To reflect the impression you want to give clients—professional, calm, and organized—as well as to create a great working environment in which to do focused, detailed accounting work.

Or do you want your office more collaborative and collegial?

Next, if you have a management team, pull them together. If you don’t, pull the whole team together – and that means everybody, including the people in your mailroom and at your reception desk – and share with them your vision for how you want the team to be running today.

Invite each person to give some thought to what they can do or do differently to contribute to making that happen. Give them an assignment on this so that you start to have a dialogue on turning your ship around in a much more positive direction.

Do you have relationship problems in your business?

Schedule a meeting a few days later and debrief everyone’s ideas.

Once you’ve had those couple of meetings, then build on it from there.

To turn your relationship problems around, take these steps:

Decide how you want it to go amongst your team.
Pull your management team, or your entire staff, together in a meeting.
Share your vision with them.
Give them the assignment to come up with several ideas to help bring this vision into bein.
Keep engaging your team to work together bringing them back into a meeting to discuss the positive solutions they present.

Once you’ve got your team working together, now what do you want next in your business?

Are you looking to be more streamlined, or do you want to be more efficient, or just generally happier?

Whatever it is, then engage your team in this way. You will see very quickly who’s on board with you and who isn’t. With those people who aren’t, meet with them one-on-one and engage them. Find out what’s missing for them to get fully on board.

Little by little, you’ll see your team transform before your very eyes, from all the relationship problems you were experiencing to the team of your dreams.

Imagine being able to transform all the relationships in your life! When you’re in touch with your passion and purpose, it’s easy! Connect with them NOW—click HERE or go to http://igniteyourlifebook.com/21daychallenge to take the 21-Day “I AM a Gift to the World” Challenge.

To your magnificence!

Andrea Woolf of IgniteYourLifeBOOK.com
The Queen of Having It All
Founder of IgniteYourLifeBOOK.com
Co-founder of WakeUpAbundant.com
Ambassador of Manifest Money, HowtoLiveonPurpose.com

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July 2, 2011

| by Andrea Woolf ("The Queen of Having It All!")

Relationship Problems: Are You Hoping He’ll Change?

Are you frustrated with your significant other? Have you been together so long that you know exactly what they’re going to say and how they’re going to react? Has the thrill that used to be in your relationship been replaced with the doldrums?

And is your answer to all your relationship problems that you’re HOPING HE’LL CHANGE?

Are you ready to take an honest look at what’s going on in the relationship that you call the most important one in your life?

It’s all too easy to look outside yourself and, with your finger pointed ‘out there’, blame everything on your partner.

Let’s call this ‘the easy way’—tongue in cheek!—easy in the sense that none of it has anything to do with you. It’s all his fault! This is where relationship problems begin.

So what’s REALLY going on in your relationship?

Have you become bored with each other?
Are you always too busy for each other?
Has everything become predictable and dull?
Are you tired of how it is?
Are you wanting more excitement and for him to be more interested in you?

Relationship problems: Are you hoping he’ll change?

If you’re going to point a finger, turn that finger around and point at your own chest and think of it this way: everything starts with you.

No matter what it looks like, absolutely everything starts with you.

On some level everything that is showing up in your life is caused by you, in whole or in part. At the very least, you play some role in how it’s going now.

If you want something to change in your relationship, how are YOU willing to change? What are YOU willing to do or be differently to produce different results?

“Can it be that simple?” you might ask. The answer is YES, absolutely!

Be that which you want in others…especially your significant other.

Here are some simple ways to turn your relationship problems around:

If you want him to be more interested in you, start by being more interested in him.
If you want him to be more affectionate and more romantic with you, be the first. Be more romantic and affectionate with him!
If you want him to communicate more with you, then 1) Be more attentive, 2) Communicate more with him, and 3) Share more of yourself with him.

Take on being that which you want in your wonderful partner and watch what happens!

Have you lost the sparkle in your relationship and your life? To reconnect with who you REALLY are and to light that fire within, go to http://igniteyourlifebook.com/21daychallenge to take the 21-Day “I AM a Gift to the World” Challenge.

To your magnificence!

Andrea Woolf
The Queen of Having It All
Founder of IgniteYourLifeBOOK.com
Co-founder of WakeUpAbundant.com
Ambassador of Manifest Money, HowtoLiveonPurpose.com

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June 16, 2011

| by Andrea Woolf ("The Queen of Having It All!")

Relationship Problems: Can’t We Just Get Along?

Tracy was near the end of her rope. At work everything was going really great—her business was thriving and now there was interest from an investor in buying it. But at home, she was feeling nothing but pressure. This was the last thing she needed right now.

Tracy had been married for almost 20 years, and for most of that time, their relationship had been going really well. She could hardly remember what life was like before meeting him.

For some reason recently he had been acting stranger and stranger—not at all like himself. For the life of her she couldn’t understand where his behavior was coming from.

By the time she got home from work, he was already sulky and moody. It seemed like an effort for him to even say hello to her, never mind hug her and connect. He seemed to want to spend more time alone in his home office. Before, he would seek her out and share everything that had happened that day. Now they were like two ships passing in the night.

Deep down, she knew that the way she was handling her relationship with David really wasn’t working. She would hear herself say, “He’s not there for me, so why should I be there for him?” Clearly this wasn’t the most effective strategy as each of them were in their own corner pondering what was wrong with the other one!

Tracy knew she was being borderline adolescent, yet she found herself digging her heels in even deeper. And he was doing exactly the same. So both were going nowhere fast!

Relationship problems: Can’t we just get along?

Tracy found it altogether too unpleasant at home, and she was starting to dread going there. She knew this had to change.

Finally, one day, she had had enough of all their relationship problems.

Tracy knew that she was so caught up in her upset with David that she wouldn’t be able to figure it out by herself. So she turned to her best friend for some perspective.

The HUGE ‘Aha’ Tracy got from her conversation with her friend was that she needed to BE what she wanted in David!

So that very same night Tracy prepared David’s favorite meal and set a beautiful table, which she hadn’t done for quite a while. She even picked out his very favorite wine to set the mood.

To say the least, David was totally surprised. And even though he tried to cover it up, he was also really delighted at all the effort that Tracy had clearly made for this special meal.

Over dinner and sipping the wine, they started to talk and uncover where their issues had first started. They soon understood that each little upset had led to the next antagonism to the next disconnect to the next upset over and over again!

So, how did Tracy and David resolve their issues?

Both were willing to take an honest look at what was causing things to go awry.
Both took ownership of their part in it.
Both were ready to give up being right.
Both immediately forgave the other.
Both took action to create a different result.

They both got to see that their relationship problems had come from nothing major, just little things—like snowballs rolling down the hill, gathering momentum, and turning into an avalanche.

They saw that they had been wasting so much precious time being upset with each other in an effort to hold onto being right!

Both Tracy and David resolved that it would be different from now forward, and they would put their relationship problems behind them.

It was David’s turn next to surprise Tracy, and he was eagerly looking forward to completely delighting her!

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Andrea Woolf
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Founder of IgniteYourLifeBOOK.com
Co-founder of WakeUpAbundant.com
Ambassador of Manifest Money, HowtoLiveonPurpose.com

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May 29, 2011

| by Andrea Woolf ("The Queen of Having It All!")

How Do You Solve Relationship Problems? Pt. 2

This is the last in the 4-part relationship series:
Where Do Relationship Problems Start? Pt.1
Where Do Relationship Problems Start? Pt.2
How Can You Solve Relationship Problems Start? Pt.1

And now here’s the final ‘episode’: How Can You Solve Relationship Problems? Pt. 2

1. Being focused more on yourself

How to solve this issue is to learn how to put the other ahead of yourself and then be willing to operate this way more often than not. That doesn’t mean becoming superhuman and never being “selfish.” However, when you’re able to put the other person first, and learn what it means to truly serve them and contribute to their well-being, it will truly work wonders in the relationship and reap huge rewards.

2. Being consumed by work

This really isn’t complicated. If you want your significant other to get that they’re important to you, it’s absolutely essential to set boundaries around your work. That isn’t to say that there won’t be certain times when you have to completely dedicate yourself to your work. However when your significant other sees you from time to time making them important–where you’ve completely set aside your work and made them number one–they in turn will feel special, and in turn treat you like you’re special. It’s magical how the Law of Reciprocity works!

Give yourself the gift of carving out that special one-on-one time with each other where you don’t allow for any interruptions. Turn off your phone. Don’t glance at e-mail. Resist that temptation. Truly focus. Be fully present, even if it’s just one hour in the evening. Commit to making this change and it will transform your relationship!

3. Stress/Not Sharing Your Load
It’s really tempting when you’re under stress to pull back, to isolate, and to try to deal with the challenges yourself. However, by pulling back, you’re not allowing your significant other to understand what’s going on and to give them the opportunity to support you or contribute.

The simple solution when you’re feeling stressed, is to reach out to your significant other, even though it might be counter intuitive, and let them know that you’re feeling stressed. It will be really helpful if you would then tell your partner what’s stressing you. That way, they can at least understand and be there for you in whatever ways work for you – for example, be patient with you, give you a hug, give you space, or whatever it is you need at that time. At best, they can work WITH you to find a solution!

Help them understand what it is you need, rather than relying on their psychic ability–this is not a great recipe for success in a relationship.

So, keep it simple, and let your partner know what’s going on. All will be well. You will both make it through those stressful times.

4. Having No Reserves/Not Taking Care of Yourself

If you really care about somebody, you owe it not only to yourself, but also to your significant other to take care of yourself. Let’s look at what this means.

How are you taking care of your body? This can refer to paying attention to what you’re eating, so that you’re truly feeding your body and nourishing yourself. It can also mean getting exercise so that you’re healthy, fit, and in great shape – which in turn will give you more energy.

Also make sure you get enough rest. Are you cramming WAY too much into every day and going to bed stressed – then getting less and less sleep as a result? So, make sure that you’re getting enough rest.

Don’t forget to take care of your soul and your spirit. Rejuvenation can take several forms. If you have some spiritual practices, for instance, that support you and nurture you, make sure that you’re incorporating them into your busy life. This can also be something as simple as listening to your favorite, soothing music or reading your favorite book that uplifts you.

In addition, think about what brings you a sense of peace and harmony in your life and in your relationship.

If you have a garden that you love, make sure you spend time there. If there is a mountain near you that you love to either look at or actually climb, go for it! If you live by the ocean, and that really lifts your spirit, take a moment somewhere in your week and spend time there at the beach. It can even be as simple as pausing and appreciating a flower.

Whatever it is for you that brings you a sense of peace and harmony, it will greatly enhance your spirit, and then your relationship – especially if you’re sharing it with that special person in your life.

5. Not making time/prioritizing your life

The solution here is very simply to prioritize your relationship!

In fact, it doesn’t matter so much how much time you spend with each other, so much as ensuring the time you do spend with each other is quality, focused, special time.

The two of you get to say what that special time looks like.

It could be just quiet time together. It could be having an amazingly fun, exciting adventure together! You get to create it together.

The point here is that it’s not enough just to say to your loved one they’re ‘number one.’ Saying this to them is great, but what’s really meaningful and makes it real is when the design of your life and your actions are in alignment with your words.

How can you solve relationship problems?

Here’s how to do it:

Put your partner first. Strive to serve them.
Set boundaries at work and prioritize time your partner. Be fully present with your partner in your time together.
Share your challenges and concerns with your partner. Give them a chance to share the load, support you, and help you.
Take care of your body, your mind and your spirit. Get enough rest, eat well, and exercise.
Prioritize your relationship, not just with your words, but also with your actions.

Start incorporating all these tips and watch your partner blossom and your relationship transform before your very eyes!

Are you feeling stuck not only in your relationship but also in your life? Are you yearning for more meaning? If you’re ready to find it, click HERE to sign up for the 21-Day “I AM a Gift to the World” Challenge!

To your magnificence!

Andrea Woolf
The Queen of Having It All
Founder of IgniteYourLifeBOOK.com
Co-founder of WakeUpAbundant.com
Ambassador of Manifest Money, HowtoLiveonPurpose.com

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Abundance and Prosperity |

May 12, 2011

| by Kristin Cenderelli

Relationship Problems: Can I Get My Husband To Believe In The Law Of Attraction?

Renee was so fired up when she learned about the Law of Attraction. She couldn’t wait to share it with her husband, Tom.

Yet, when she went to tell him, he just nodded his head and said, “That’s great, honey. Why don’t you go manifest us a million dollars so I can quit my job!”

Throughout her day, Renee feels so good and happy to be alive. She loves to get home after a productive day at work and feels she is right on track to manifesting all that she wants.

However, she isn’t sure what to expect from Tom. It’s like walking on eggshells. Most days he’s in a fine mood. Sometimes he is in such a bad mood, Renee doesn’t know what to say to him.

She’s tried teaching him more about the Law of Attraction, but the more she tries to help him, the more he gets frustrated.

Renee and Tom are having relationship problems and she wonders, “Can I Get My Husband To Believe In The Law Of Attraction?”

Do not do it physically, but vibrationally

You cannot control anyone, but the only thing you do have control over is the way you see them. The way a person has been interacting with you is an exact match to how you have been viewing them. If you are able to take the time to focus on the good things about that person, they will begin behaving that way with you. Law of Attraction has it no other way.

When you see him out of alignment, then you are out of alignment as well

You think you are in alignment when you try to defend your point of view. You think the other person is wrong and you are justifying the truth. You are far from alignment when you judge another. When you are seeing someone as less than perfect, you, too are misaligned. Practice, practice, practice seeing him as Source sees him: perfect and exactly where he needs to be at this moment. Hold onto that image of him. That is unconditional love.

Be an example

Live your life free of comparison, competition or a feeling of being someone’s “savior.” You are not here to help others believe as you do. If you live your life free of any have-to’s and instead do the want-to’s, then you will be an amazing example of pure joy, love and inner peace. People will be inspired by your example.

He does not have to understand LOA to live a happy life

LOA is working no matter what. Do not force the teaching of the Law of Attraction on him. Instead, live the lessons on a daily basis. Let your light shine and you will be amazed at how he responds.

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Relationship Problems: Can I Get My Husband To Believe In The Law Of Attraction?

Manifest Money |

April 27, 2011

| by Andrea Woolf ("The Queen of Having It All!")

Where Do Relationship Problems Start Pt. 2

Here are the next five common sources of where relationship problems start. Any one of them can cause major stress in your relationships!

6. Being Focused More On Yourself:

Usually relationships aren’t perfectly balanced all the time. Life doesn’t happen like that. However, when you’re more focused on yourself on a regular basis – on what you want and need – rather than on your significant other, it can cause resentment.

7. Being Consumed By Work:

One of the most common indicators of relationship problems is being consumed by work. It’s understandable when this happens from time to time. But when it’s your normal routine, it can definitely cause havoc in your important relationships.

8. Stress/Not Sharing the Load:

This is another HUGE one. This is when you’re under stress and don’t share the load with your partner – perhaps you keep it all to yourself and don’t even let them know what’s going on. This is usually not a good strategy, to say the least, and will lead to all kinds of misunderstanding and communication problems.

Where do relationship problems start?

9. Having No Reserves/Not Taking Care of Yourself:

If you’re giving everything of yourself (time, energy, emotion) to your work, your family, your friends, or to helping others and you drain your well of reserves dry, you won’t have anything left to give to your relationship.

It’s vital that you take care of yourself, and keep something in reserve for your relationship. If you’re completely exhausted, you’ll have nothing left to give. And if you don’t take care of yourself, it will show up sooner rather than later in your relationship.

10. Not Making Time/Prioritizing Your Life:

Is life happening at you? Are you rushing through life? If you’re not making the time to prioritize your partner, you’ll send the message that you don’t care. You’re not giving them any kind of starring role in the movie called your life.

ALL OF THESE stressors in your relationships can be managed just by paying attention. And the sooner you do, the easier it is to avert relationship problems and get back on a great track in your relationships.

Think about who is most important in your life. And then look at how you’re actually prioritizing them.

It’s amazingly great when the design of your life and your actions are in alignment with your words!

The key to great relationships is to first improve your relationship with yourself. Click HERE for your FREE chapter of Ignite Your Life! How To Get From Where You Are To Where You Want To Be.

To your magnificence!

Andrea Woolf
The Queen of Having It All
Founder of IgniteYourLifeBOOK.com
Co-founder of WakeUpAbundant.com
Ambassador of Manifest Money, HowtoLiveonPurpose.com

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Where Do Relationship Problems Start Pt. 2

Manifest Money |

April 9, 2011

| by Andrea Woolf ("The Queen of Having It All!")

Where Do Relationship Problems Start? Pt. 1

As with anything in life, the earlier you notice it and nip it in the bud, the easier it is to defuse, handle and solve it. It’s the same with relationship problems. The sooner you catch them, the quicker you avert disaster in your relationships.

Here are the five common sources of relationship problems:
1. Poor Communication:

There are clear signs when communication isn’t going so well. Typically there’s a challenge with your partner that’s causing ineffective communication. Your relationship will sag when certain topics are avoided. And it’s even more extreme when you stop communicating altogether.

2. Not Paying Attention/Getting Distracted:

Ever heard the saying, “The shoemaker’s children have no shoes”? It’s easy drop out paying attention to the ones you love the most. You won’t even realize you’re doing it, but in the flurry of life and not paying attention, it’s easy to do.

In today’s world, it’s easy to get distracted. In the evening, instead of focusing on each other, you have the TV on or the laptop on your lap as you answer emails, check out Facebook, or play a game. All this keeps you from fully connecting.

3. Being Oblivious:

You know how sometimes you don’t have a clue about what’s going on with your partner? Then suddenly everything blows up, but you’re not sure why. You know something’s up, that they need something, but you have no clue what it is. It’s a mystery!

4. Being Indifferent:

Being indifferent creates major relationship problems. This usually comes from long-term feelings of frustration or from being hurt one too many times.

Indifference is a HUGE red flag in a relationship. Nothing affects you either way because you have disengaged from your relationship, or they have disengaged from you. You’re indifferent to them, their needs and desires.

5. Taking The Other For Granted/Ignoring Each Other:

Taking your partner for granted is all too easy, especially when you’re busy. You don’t appreciate them and assume that they’re just going to keep on giving. This usually doesn’t work too well for very long! And in the long term it causes hurt and resentment.

Ignoring your partner is not a great strategy, to say the least! It doesn’t make the issues go away or solve anything. It’s definitely a sign of imminent relationship problems.

Where do relationship problems start?

ALL of these sources can be corrected and handled just by paying attention. And the sooner you do, the easier it is to get back on a GREAT track in your relationship!

The key to great relationships is to first improve your relationship with yourself. Start by clicking HERE to get your FREE chapter of Ignite Your Life! How To Get From Where You Are To Where You Want To Be.

To your magnificence!

Andrea Woolf
The Queen of Having It All
Founder of IgniteYourLifeBOOK.com
Co-founder WakeUpAbundant.com
Ambassador of Manifest Money, HowtoLiveonPurpose.com

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